Empathy

Wow, it's been ages since I've written on this blog..... I guess time truly does speed by as you grow older.

Today, in therapy I spoke to my counselor about communication, being mindful of my thoughts, and empathy. Oddly, I couldn't exactly tell him what "empathy" truly was compared to "sympathy".  He explained that it was seeing the situation through another person's eyes.  You know... walking a mile in another's shoes. I told him that that's exactly what I want! Misunderstanding me, he said, "Well, that's what all women/ all people want in life.  People want to be understood from their viewpoint."  I then explained that, of course, I wanted to be understood but I want to be better at empathizing.  So much of my anger and irritation with people around me is not seeing their side of things.  I hate my judgmental side but it's not focusing on that that will change me.  It's letting those thoughts and feelings come in and then what I do with them that will help me grow. 

I have to say that I'm lucky to have found a partner in life who is so patient, not quick to react, and understanding.  I can't tell you out there how lucky I am.